Our house is always filled with boys. The house is messy and chaotic, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I love watching them grow up and change and develop. It is fascinating to see legs getting longer, bodies stronger, faces and voices changing.
As they get older they are still noisy and always hungry, and they take up more space and are more opinionated.
Read 14 Life lessons For My Son on my words of wisdom from my life’s experiences for my son.
We want our boys to become happy, confident and well-balanced men so we need all the help we can get.
I am no expert but here are some things that I have found helpful…
★ Get involved at your son’s school. Talk to the teacher at least once a term to find out what your kids strengths and weaknesses or struggles are in class.
★ Encourage reading every day. Chat about what is going on in the world. We love to look at the atlas of the world and dream about where we want to go. Listen to podcasts that inspire and inform.
“I have never met a child or any person who didn’t want to learn and grow. It is inherent in the very core of our nature. Wisdom is to honour every child for who they are as they are. Take the time to look for their unique genius as when you see it you are able to help them see it for themselves.” Demartini
★ Find ways that your boys can release physical energy. Encourage them to take up sports to put that energy into good use. They need to move and be active. My son loves cycling so we go out and find different routes every weekend.
★ Communicate with them often. Teach them social skills and encourage them to ask questions and show an interest in others.
★ Spend lots of time together. Go on family outings and holidays and plan activities for the whole family. If you have more than one child, make sure you spend individual attention on each child.
★ Set rules and limits and be firm about maintaining them. You can adapt these as they get older, but boundaries do make a child feel safe and secure.
★ Give them love- unconditionally. However, they behave, you still love them. You might not like the behaviour sometimes, but you do love the boy.
★ Give them some responsibility. Set tasks and chores for them in the home and get them to help with the cooking and cleaning. A sense of responsibility will serve them well in life.
“Do not do for your children what they can do for themselves.”
★ Respect their feelings. Let them cry and comfort them when they are hurt. Listen to their grievances. When your son gets upset, let him express himself and share his emotions. It helps to label the emotion, whether it’s hurt or sad or angry.
Enjoy the adventures and exploring and new discoveries. Time passes so quickly, and every moment is precious.
Anything to add about your experiences with your boys?