Some of my life’s learnings and some words that I wish I had heard when I was your age. There is more so look out for part 2…
Question everything. Do not accept as absolute truth what society tells you.
In difficult times remember that life is not bad, there are just some bad moments. Pain is part of life. In a troubled situation, it may feel like the world is falling apart, that there is no hope but that moment will pass. Tough times and dealing with emotions add layers onto your backbone and teaches you to manage emotions. Challenges facilitate the birth of opportunity and innovation.
The future is yours. Make the most of it. Make it incredible!
Read and never stop reading and learning. Reading expands our mind, brings certainty and wisdom, fuels the imagination and widens our world. Devour good fiction novels, read up on business books and explore autobiographies. The mental activity of reading sharpens your mind and also improves your memory. It also keeps you busy on those flights to us and back and those long car trips to Mozambique.
Use your amazing brain; study hard at school, even though you might think some of the subjects will not help you at all in life. Fill your mind with information and knowledge. Then after school go on and study something you love, something that makes your heart race and that you feel inspired to learn more about. Find out what will fulfils you, what is meaningful to you, what lights your fire and pursue that.
Whatever you do, do it well. Do your very best.
Make meaningful connections– don’t just be friends with people your own age. Connect with the young and the older. Meet others who share your interests. Build a network of amazing people. Who you know is important in life and more so as you get older.
Spend some time with your Dad. He loves you dearly and would move the world for you if he had to. Sit with him and watch a soccer match or have a chat about his work and what he does. Let him share with you a bit about his childhood and his family in the UK.
You were born magnificent and you still are.
I have known you most of your life and even though we do not see you all the time know that I do love you and I will ALWAYS be there for you. I am there to offer a warm guiding hand if you need it, I am there behind you supporting you as you face lives challenges and I am there cheering you on as you celebrate lives rewards.
Keep moving, always. Move your body, dance, run, swim and walk. Exercise is really, truly good for you, it gives you energy, increases strength and tones your body. (We know we all want that, right!) Respect your body and feed it well. Listen to what it needs and be mindful of what you put into your body.
In relationships with guys retain the balance. Don’t put them on a pedestal and don’t let them hold you back from doing what you want. Find someone who brings out the best in you and will allow you to shine. You will have heartaches in your life but these are what makes us stronger and experiencing those moments may seem like the end of the world at the time you will come out of it stronger- trust me on this!
Be yourself and be proud of it.
Treat others as you would have them treat you. Life and social circles can be complex but don’t stoop down to bullying and teasing or allow it to be a part of your life. Speak up if you see this or experience it yourself. Do not be afraid to stand up against what you feel is wrong or to walk away from a ‘friend’ who brings you and others down.
In the words of my teacher and mentor Dr Demartini- A happy, easy, peaceful safe and agreeable life is a fantasy and not the reality of life. Life is a balance and that every challenging situation serves a purpose in your development.
The world is a better place for having you in it.